HOW TO WRITE A WINNING SISTER OF THE BRIDE SPEECH

Hey, friend!

Tell me if this is you…

You’re an overwhelmed Sister of the Bride who has a ton of great stories about the Bride, but zero idea which one(s) to pick for your wedding speech. 

Deep breaths! I’m here to help. 

Here’s how you can write a compelling Sister-of-the-Bride speech in 3 easy steps. 

STEP 1.) BRAINSTORM FAVORITE MEMORIES

It’s totally normal to feel stuck when writing a speech, but the way to get unstuck is by brainstorming and doing what we writers like to call “word vomiting”. 

Word vomiting means that you are going to write everything that comes to mind when you think about your sister and the life you two have shared together without caring how it sounds at first. 

These are raw, unfiltered thoughts. It’s not even necessary that you write in complete sentences; jotting down bullet points works just as well! 

Remember that now is not the time to start editing what you’ve already written. Editing comes later.The point of this step is to simply get your favorite and most impactful memories down on paper or typed out in a Word Document.

During this step, I like to put my phone in “Do Not Disturb” mode and set a timer for 15 to 30 minutes.

Here are some questions to think about…

• What is your favorite memory with your sister?

• How has the Bride positively impacted your life? 

• Why are you proud of her?

• Why do you think she will make a great wife?

After you’ve written down everything you can possibly think of, it’s time to move on to Step 2! 

STEP 2.) IDENTIFY A THEME

Ok, this is one of my favorite steps in the speech writing process–sorting through all of the information and figuring out a theme.

When looking over everything that you’ve written down, what stands out the most about your sister, specifically what character trait stands out the most?

Is she loyal, adventurous, kind-hearted, generous, selfless, optimistic, resilient, hilarious, etc?

Once you have decided what it is, I want you to focus on your favorite story that highlights this particular character trait best and then tell that story in your speech! 

STEP 3.) EXPLAIN WHY SHE’LL MAKE A GREAT WIFE

Next, we want to connect this theme to the marriage, explaining why your sister’s specific positive character trait (that you picked from Step 2) will benefit the groom. 

LET’S LOOK AT AN EXAMPLE:

I once worked with a Maid of Honor named Lindsey whose best friend, Michelle, was like her sister to her.

Basically joined at the hip from a young age, they ended up traveling the world together as adults. 

Some of Lindsey’s fondest memories and best stories about Michelle were when they traveled together, especially when their adventures didn’t go according to plan.

We noticed a theme about Michelle–she was very adventurous and always kept a positive attitude despite the crazy circumstances. 

For example, one time they visited Thailand and went scuba diving, which sounds super fun, but then a nasty storm hit and it was actually quite terrifying. 

“Michelle still made it fun because of her positive attitude,” Lindsey told me. 

No matter what happens, Michelle still finds joy in whatever situation she is in!

So…

To conclude Lindsey’s Maid of Honor Speech and tie it into Michelle’s marriage…

Here is what we wrote (specifically addressing the Groom):

“We all know life is hard, but just know that when the storms come and the waves crash overhead, Michelle will be right by your side, reminding you to just keep swimming.”

I hope you found this helpful!

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